I consider myself a very giving person. Or at least I've been told I'm a very giving person. All I know is I much rather prefer to give than to receive. I'm not good at receiving. Unless, of course, it's criticism!
One of my favorite things to do is surprise someone with a gift - whether it's a small token from the dollar store that made me think of them, or it's a homemade batch of their favorite cookies, or if it's a regular old store bought gift. Sometimes a simple compliment lights up peoples faces. I love bringing smiles to other people.
The balance, I believe, comes in the motive. If my motive for giving is to make someone smile, great. If my motive for giving is to make myself stand out so I am more special, not so great. If my motive for not wanting people to give to me is because I already have all that I need, great. If my motive for not wanting people to give to me is because I feel unworthy, not so great.
I have been reminded, quite a few times, actually, that the good feeling
I get from giving, comes from the giving itself. Which means, if I
want other people to be able to feel that same good feeling.... well....
I have to let people give to me, too. I hate that logic, but it does make sense. If only being on the receiving end wasn't so darn uncomfortable!