I watched the cutest piece the other day showing groups of kids freestyle dancing. That always makes me smile. That clip was followed by a commercial showing a design rehabber and construction guru looking fit beyond words, driving a back-hoe. Changing channels found a home-cook turned tv chef talking about a delicious Thanksgiving dish his family loves. A few channels later the screen was filled with a DIY-er sharing simple yet beautiful home improvement projects. Then landscape artists. Swimmers gliding across the pool filled the screen next. Then an unplugged concert by a pianist with a beautiful voice. There were more channels, too, full of talents and gifts and knowledge.
Sounds like a pretty typical weekend morning, right? Well, at least for me it is. It's a nice treat to get up and be able to couch it for a little bit before beginning the day, which is vastly different from weekday mornings.
I hadn't realized it before that morning how much I *still* want to be someone I'm not.
I wish I could dance. It looks like fun, despite the fact that I tend to trip over my own feet. I wish I knew how to design and build and woodwork - I loved it as a kid, but now? I value my fingers, thank you very much. Cooking? Yeah, right. Home decorating? I wish. My house looks almost exactly the same as it did when I moved in ten years ago. Landscaping? Heck, I wish I could keep a plant alive or grow some herbs and veggies, much less put the pond into the yard that I've wanted to do since childhood. And I still kick myself for quitting music lessons when I was a kid. I'm envious of those who can play an instrument, it sounds so beautiful. Throw in singing, too? You've got me. I'm turning green on the inside. And not a day goes by that I don't miss the athletics I used to participate in on a regular basis.
I have my own gifts and talents. I know that. My therapist reminds me of them fairly regularly, too, as I often forget that I do have things to offer the world. I see the talents of others to be much more valuable than my own. Instead, I see myself as too clumsy to dance, to weak to do anything requiring sustained physical exertion, as far from a homemaker as possible, too lazy to pick up any athletics, and when it comes to music? I see myself as selfish for quitting lessons as a child.
Sounds pretty grim, I know. So is the work I'm doing to change that. Cause you know what? One of these days, I'm going to feel good enough.
I'm going to feel good enough.
I'm going to feel like my gifts and talents are good enough offerings for the world. More than that, I'm going to feel like I'm valuable, just as I am.